I’ve taught a lot of self-defense classes over the years and one of the biggest issues that women have to overcome is their meekness. I’m not saying every woman is non-assertive but a lot are….especially in a confrontational situation. It has been documented many times in assault cases that the victim, man or woman, that fought back during a fight survived the incident. Interviews with criminals that asked why they chose or didn’t choose certain people to be victims show that assertiveness and awareness was a major deterrent.
Women display meekness for a variety of reasons. Fear, societal conditioning, poor advice, and personal beliefs are the major ones. I could go into each one in depth but the situation is still the same. Women, and some men, need to reach deep down inside when the time arises and let their “inner animal” instincts out. This can be hard but it is made easier and more effective through training. Many people think that they can go to a self-defense class, learn a couple of cool tricks, and they will be OK. Sadly, that is ignorant and not the case. A person has to go through training to develop that skill just like any other skill. Becoming assertive, and aggressive if necessary, is a skill that needs to be developed and maintained.
I have seen many women open up during training and turn up their response level usually due to the fact that they figured out how to do it, what it feels like, and how to “tune in” to that level of emotional release. I believe this is what every man and woman needs to do. Women are victimized more than men and they usually take care of children and the home. They are usually the first-line defense of a child or elderly person. It is essential that they learn proper protection skills.
Women display meekness for a variety of reasons. Fear, societal conditioning, poor advice, and personal beliefs are the major ones. I could go into each one in depth but the situation is still the same. Women, and some men, need to reach deep down inside when the time arises and let their “inner animal” instincts out. This can be hard but it is made easier and more effective through training. Many people think that they can go to a self-defense class, learn a couple of cool tricks, and they will be OK. Sadly, that is ignorant and not the case. A person has to go through training to develop that skill just like any other skill. Becoming assertive, and aggressive if necessary, is a skill that needs to be developed and maintained.
I have seen many women open up during training and turn up their response level usually due to the fact that they figured out how to do it, what it feels like, and how to “tune in” to that level of emotional release. I believe this is what every man and woman needs to do. Women are victimized more than men and they usually take care of children and the home. They are usually the first-line defense of a child or elderly person. It is essential that they learn proper protection skills.
2 comments:
Women can have self-confidence issues that make it hard for them to get into the training really hard. Some have been attacked and it is emotionally hard for them to fight back because they relive their attack.
"Sing like no one is listening. Dance like no one is watching."
Diane Sh.
Most peopel, mostly women, need to understand how bad a fight can be and how hard they have to work to get away from an attacker. It isn't pretty and there are no guarantees.
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